Dojo Session #7: Self-Leadership

DOJO – December 2009

Many of us move from spiritual high to spiritual high wondering why we can’t just be spiritually baked all the time. If you live that way you soon realize that you can’t avoid the struggles, the heartbreaks, the failures. The highs are beautiful and needed and God is gracious to give them. But God is gracious to give the low times as well… because it’s these times that God uses to restore, remake and refine the child he loves… you and me.

So how do we “lead ourselves” during both the highs and lows so that we are moving towards being more loved by God, loving him back and tangibly loving the world? Or maybe simply…

How do I grow during both the highs and lows?

We’ve spent other DOJO’s talking about nurturing our lives through spiritual disciplines [ie. Bible reading, prayer, fasting, etc.]. And we’ll come back to that again. But some basic tenets to begin with:

+ Growing is fueled by a spirit of SURRENDER. > Romans 8:1-8

So often struggles in life [regardless of whether it’s brought on by us] reveal areas where we hold on to too much control. And God, responding as a loving-father, uses these times to loosen our grip and help us to trust His lead for our lives. Yield to his control… learn to let go.

+ Growing is allowing God to bring correction. > Hebrews 12:1-11

God’s most loving act is often to point out our most glaring weakness. It’s His heart to train, build up and correct for the good of ourselves and those around us. Which means that our mistakes become the most fertile soil for growth. Listen for what God wants to say especially during times when you mess it up.

+ Growing is trusting Jesus over the circumstance. > Philippians 4:13

We don’t learn contentment when things are going well. In fact we often settle into greater dissatisfaction [ie. American consumerism]. We learn contentment when we don’t have what we want… and that’s when we learn authentic faith and a genuine trust for a God that is bigger than our circumstances.

+ Growing is believing God is doing a work in you. > Romans 8:28-30

God has NOT given up on us. And He won’t until He’s finished. We often deal with parental-figures who are always calling out our flaws. Thankfully God never forgets to see our potential and will never tire of helping us get there. Even when we don’t see our growth, He does. Believe it.


It helps to look at the areas in your life that God is training you in. And it is often those areas where we struggle the most, feel most vulnerable or experience anxiety. It can be an area of weakness, a person that drives us crazy or a fear that owns us. But either way it often rears its head in the most inopportune times. How do we watch ourselves for it and develop a plan to grow through it?

As a disclaimer, this is not meant to oversimplify complex issues that many of us have. There may be struggles where we need to seek the help of others for prayer or counsel for greater healing. This exercise is meant to help us learn to lead ourselves and navigate our daily lives as a means to draw closer to God and follow his lead.

Fill out the bottom:

The point of this exercise is not so we’d get dogmatic about filling out a chart. Who needs more charts? The point is to help us reflect on how God might be training, healing and calling us yield in different parts of our lives. So you may need to fill it out in detail at first. But the goal is to help us have an eye for how God is working in us.

Here are a few examples:

*Edit: the right column with the statement that begins w/”Daily Morning…” should read: “Daily Morning and Nighttime Prayer, “There is nothing I will do that can make you love me MORE or love me less. Thank you for loving me.”

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